The Art of Gathering

Book by Priya Parker (2018)

A master facilitator teaches how to transform any meeting. Whether a work conference, a book club, or a family dinner, it can be transformed from a dull formality into a meaningful experience that forges a real connection. Parker’s advice ranges from the strategic (define a clear purpose for your gathering, don’t be afraid to exclude as well as include to protect that purpose kindly) to the creative (use name tags with a fun prompt, open with a unique icebreaker, set “pop-up rules” like no phones at the table). She emphasizes guiding guests beyond small talk by inviting vulnerability and authenticity, e.g. through personal story-sharing activities. This book delivers practical magic for social connection. For a midlifer who might feel their social life has grown stale or superficial, Parker’s ideas are energizing and achievable. The tone is upbeat and empathetic; she acknowledges that many of us feel awkward or on autopilot in social settings, then demonstrates how small changes (such as a thoughtful opening toast or a structured dialogue question) can lead to significant warmth. It suggests that coming together with intention can be profoundly healing and enjoyable, rather than draining. It’s evidence-based in its way (drawing on her years of experience across cultures) but also very human-centred. You can check Priya’s website and her work here.